Isn’t That Romantic?

Did you ever consider the word “That” to be romantic?  I discovered so just this past week.  Or so I thought.

My wife serves as editor for my musings on TheBuddyBlog.com.  Without her, I would dangle far too many participles, misplace a truckload of commas, and overuse passive verbs.  This time, her editing prompted a discussion/debate on the use of the word “that.”

I explained how I had been taught to avoid overusing the word “that.”  And whenever I edited a composition, I should first remove every “that” and then re-read the sentences.  If it makes sense without them, exclude them.

She smiled and commented that such distaste for “that” is a Southern thing.  She went on to note that there is not a specific word for “that” in the Romance Languages. I couldn’t bring myself to admit my ignorance when it came to knowing what she meant by Romance Languages. Could they have something to do with the Five Love Languages?  Seeing my quizzical expression, she explained it referred to French, Italian, Spanish, Portuguese, and Romanian.  English, she noted, wasn’t considered a Romance Language.

I quickly pounced.  My logical, analytical brain promptly connected the dots.  As I raised my eyebrows in a suave and self-congratulatory manner, I pointed out, “Oh, I guess THAT means Southerners are romantic.”  

No, No, NO,” she smirked.  “Not necessarily so.”

I clarified my conclusion.

You just said not using the “that” word was primarily a Southern thing.  Then you said the Romance Languages do not have a word for “that.”  Therefore if A=C and B=C, then A=B, Southerners must be romantic.

My smile displayed a rather satisfied look at my deductive reasoning skills, thinking all the while, I am a Southerner, ergo, I must be a romantic.

There you go using math again.”   She actually loves it when I go mathematical on her, especially when grocery shopping, but rarely so in personal conversations.

She smirked once more, lowered her still-shaking head, and returned in earnest to the editing of my next post. 

I suspect she will be saying “Good Night” in English tonight.

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  1. bosssybabe

    You guys are adorable lol.. My husband and I are opposites.. He’s not very wordy and brilliant with logic and numbers, whereas I’m always expressive and could care less for anything related to math lol


    1. Buddy McElhannon

      Yep. Know the feeling. Sometimes our differences complement one another and sometimes those differences simply create opportunities for conflict. But then, I told my wife she reminds me of tabasco sauce – which I like to add to my chili. She “spices” up my life and gives it a kick.

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      1. bosssybabe

        Haha, in that case I’m my husband’s Carolina reaper lol I light fire under his butt constantly! 🙂


  2. Mark Closson

    Buddy, I learned it in the Air Force. When writing we were instructed to go on a “that and which hunt”. If the writing could be read properly without a “that” or “which” then it was not useful. Interesting but I will stay out of the romance discussion. You two will have to work that out on your own.


  3. Jenny McMillin

    So glad for another Buddy Bog! Its been too long and that’s a fact!! 🤣

    Sent from my iPhone



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